رد: ياشباب وشابات المستوى الثالث واي شخص لديه روح التعاون
الظاهر مافي غيرنا متحمس
بس احس ونااااااااااسه مراااااا حلو التعاون
The Preparation For and Ceremony of Marriage in Islam
In Islam, marriages are a very important event most Muslim weddings
are arranged, in order for an arranged marriage to take place both the
boys/girls side must give consent, with arranged marriages both
families make sure that the boy's/girl's (and their family's)
reputation and history is accepted in society and that they have no
flaws which would bring a bad name on their family all this is checked
before the husband/wife enters into their family.
A Muslim boy/girl have to choose their partners very carefully as it
is an arranged marriage and they are expected to spend their whole
life with a stranger they have to get to know them and know all their
ways of living and habits etcâ?¦ before they agree to marry them
although sometimes the parents of the girl/boy are very strict and may
not allow this to happen they may just decide for their son/daughter
to get married to someone without asking their opinion this may be a
problem sometimes as the married couple may not get along or there may
be other problems, another problem with arranged marriages is that if
the parents of the Muslim girl/ boy agree to the marriage without the
daughters or/ sons consent then it is like they are deciding the fate
if their child without the child having a say in it, but mostly this
is not the case and the girl/boy is asked their opinion about the
person they are going to marry because Muslims believe that a marriage
which is forced is doomed to failure. In Islam getting married to a
member of your family whether its intermediate or distant family is
very common.
The majority of Muslim marriages are arranged although there are a few
love marriages but in the Muslim community love marriages are not
really an option and it seen as a very dangerous thing to do sometimes
muslims regard being under the influence of love' as a intoxicating
state of mind that could easily cloud judgement. Parents are thought
to find good compatible partners for their children and sometimes they
do no agree to give consent to love marriages.
Muslims are encouraged to have an arranged marriage although sometimes
people have a mixed marriage this is allowed as long as it is a Sikh,
Indian, or a Christian person. If an Muslim gets married then the wife
has to follow the husbands religion and convert the children have to
follow their fathers religion but it is preferred to get married to
another Muslim because this way their community expands and Islam as a
whole expands.
When the marriage is decided upon (arranged) before the wedding many
other celebrations and ceremony's have to take place. Such as the
engagement where both the girls and boys family gets together and have
an engagement ceremony where the bride and groom get together and
exchange rings the other event is the Mahr (dowry) The Mahr is the
dowry paid by the husband to the wife. It is a sum negotiated by the
husband and wife, which she can keep when or if they later get
divorced, if the wife wants to get divorced without the consent of her
husband she can but only if the mahr is returned. It is against, the
sunnah of the prophet to demand high dowries or not give to give a
dowry at all or pay the brides father in compensation for his
daughters services at home.
After this follows the actual Nikah (wedding) the Nikah is a simple
affair the ceremony is plain and simple consisting of readings from
the Qur'an and vows are exchanged in front of witnesses. There are
also a few prayers recited for this happy occasion the imam is present
and no religious official is necessary. The bride does not have to be
present as long as she sends her 'wali' or marriage representative and
also two witnesses of agreement to the wedding and she can be at home.
The signing of the Nikah (wedding) contract's can be changed the
original date by weeks or even months or years just like with the
prophet and his wife Aishah. If the girl is at home they declare three
times that she accepts the wedding. Nikah is not considered to be a
sacred contract or 'made in heaven' but is a binding contract giving
the husband and wife both equal rights and responsibilities. Due to
the fact that ' love' is not necessarily present at the time a bride
can include into the contract certain conditions that would help her
if she later wished to have a divorce she could also make it clear
that she does not give permission to allow her husband to have a
second wife.
After the Nikah follows the Walimah this is the actual wedding party
the bride may not dress up for the Nikah but she will certainly dress
up for the Walimah. The walimah usually consists of the actual wedding
feast it can take place within three days of the couple living
together. Presents are usually given presents given are usually money.
It is a tradition to have huge expensive parties in some societies but
this is not religious or part of Islam, the prophet disapproves of
lavish especially if it causes problems between the husband and wife.
In Islam the only compatibility that matters is the piety. The prophet
said' a woman should only be married to a person who is good enough
for her or compatible to her
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